How Often Should You Have Sex to Get Pregnant?

Marie-Claire De Villiers
By Marie-Claire De Villiers
Romi Hector
Edited by Romi Hector

Published June 2, 2022.

A happy couple sitting on a couch smiling at one another

Having lots of sex to get pregnant can be fun, but a little guidance is always useful. Our team of experts has put together this guide to help your journey in making a baby as stress-free and enjoyable as possible.

Is It Possible to Have Too Much Sex When Trying to Conceive?

Nope! There's no such thing as too much sex if you're trying to have a baby. The only thing you might want to consider is that if one partner is more interested than the other—which is common—it may put a bit of strain on one person or the relationship. Having sex very often can be exhausting. Sometimes, a strict and intense schedule of lovemaking can become stressful and potentially take the fun, romance, and connection out of it, possibly resulting in the couple having less sex. However, if the couple is very much on the same page and knows that they can maintain their feelings for each other through this process, there's no reason not to increase the frequency of sex.

Is It Better to Conceive in the Morning or at Night?

Recent studies have shown that having sex in the morning may produce a higher chance of conception. There are several reasons for this, including the following:

  • Sperm is regenerated during sleep.
  • Heat caused by exercise, hot baths, etc., can shorten the shelf life of sperm.

How to Check If You’re Fertile Enough to Conceive

If you have a perfectly regular 28-day cycle, you'll ovulate on day 14; however, your fertile window starts on day 10. Days 10-14 are optimal for conception.

How Can I Tell If I'm Ovulating?

Very few women's menstrual cycle phases are completely regular, and this is where ovulation trackers and tests come in handy. There are several excellent ovulation trackers on the market. You can also take an ovulation test if you're unsure whether or not you're ovulating. These work similarly to pregnancy tests—a stick dipped into urine that will provide a color change or digital reading.

However, some recent studies have shown that ovulation tests may only show indicators towards the end of ovulation or even afterward, meaning the woman has already missed her window.

If you'd prefer not to buy anything, you can also keep a lookout for the following signs of ovulation (while remembering that every woman is different and may show any, all, or none of these signs):

  • More slippery and clearer mucus
  • Slight increase in temperature
  • Women may experience other signs such as libido changes, bloating, and breast tenderness (but these are not reliable ways of predicting ovulation).

Inducing Ovulation

On the other end of the spectrum, some women who struggle to conceive may decide to make the process as quick and straightforward as possible by inducing ovulation. Studies at Yale University Medical Department have shown that ovulation induction has a 20% to 25% success rate of conception per cycle. As a rule of thumb, a maximum of six cycles can be used.

Vitamins to Boost Fertility

Vitamins to boost fertility include Vitamins B, E, and D, as well as COEnzyme Q10, fish oil, and Selenium.

How Often Should You Have Sex To Conceive

Couples trying to have a baby should have sex every 2 to 3 days without using contraception, making sure that the sperm enters the vagina. They should also have as much sex as possible during ovulation. Ultimately, while more sex will increase the chances of pregnancy, it's up to each partner to decide what is a comfortable amount for them.

Get Support If Needed

If you're finding the fertility journey to be a difficult one, you're not alone! Remember that many couples find it emotionally and physically challenging. There are many support groups out there that can be incredibly helpful.